Moving On

It’s been a trying winter this year. The ground was covered with snow before Thanksgiving and has remains covered through today (March 27). The temperature was below zero much of the time and the sun shown only occasionally giving us shut-ins a lot to deal with. However, all of that pales to the loss of my friend and invaluable helper Daniel. At first, I could not get him out of my mind, but time is slowly starting to work its magic.

The process of moving on from this terrible tragedy shares similar characteristics with an individual who is struggling with the sudden onset of a disability. The whole procedure takes time. When I began rehabilitation I was grieving the loss of 80% of my body. It has been a long and difficult road, but one that must be traveled. The process was a little easier given I was injured doing something I loved as opposed to being struck by a drunk driver. So I didn’t have to deal with that anger and resentment. Even so, it was still very difficult and remains so at times. My psychologist, at Craig Hospital, said depression and self-pity were an okay place to visit, but no place to set up residence.

A doctor told my wife in the beginning there will be mostly bad days. After a while the bad days and good days will seem to even out and then finally, after enough time the good days will outnumber the bad. His observation has proved true. One will still have bad days from time to time, but the majority will be good.

Moving On

Taken by Daniel last spring

In time, I believe, one must come to terms with what has happened and the fact that life will never be the same. There is the strength in each and every one of us to handle whatever challenge we are faced with. Grieving is a normal and natural process, as is the “what if” questioning. However, at some point one must accept what has happened and the changes that have occurred. After that, and knowing the alternative choices, it is imperative one begins to move on.

6 responses to “Moving On

  1. We are each able to move on from some challenges more quickly than others. It just depends. You will carry Daniel with you in many places, and he will pop up over and over, disrupting your day in good ways and sad. But it’s good you understand that you must begin moving in a direction. Be gentle with your soul.

  2. Rich,
    Through your loss and your grief, you are promoting Daniel to a very special place. You are telling us of what he has done.
    You are telling us to be gentle with each other, because no-one knows the full story of another’s life.
    You are telling us that to discover someone like Daniel is extremely special: to lose him, horrific.
    Through your memories,experiences, loss, I am sure that “The Story of Daniel” will be told.

  3. Hi, very good thoughts to digest, you are so right and have a great outlook. Having an experience like yours does help you become more aware and sensitive to those also suffering from a huge life change. To quote a pita guy I know

    (ugh) keep up the good work – Love you Mary

  4. Hi Rich! I have a quick question and was wondering if you could email me when you have a free moment. Thank you!! hvsj12 AT gmail DOT com 🙂 Hope to hear from you soon!!

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